The importance of disciplining our children while they are still young…


We only have a certain amount of time, early on in our children’s upbringing, while they are young, to instill in them the discipline and respect for authority that will be invaluable to them later on in life.

The biggest problem that we have today in America, is directly related to the breakdown of the family unit within our country.

Over several generations now, I would say going all the way back to the 60s, we can see today the results of what happens to a nation who rebels totally against the God of the Bible.

Let us remember that those wayword and rebellious teenagers, those hippies of which some of us were a party to in our younger years, that today they are the political leaders and businessman, who are directing our nation’s future!

Proverbs 13:24 tells us that:

“Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.”

What does it mean to “spare the rod, spoil the child”?

The phrase “spare the rod, spoil the child” is a modern-day proverb that means if a parent refuses to discipline an unruly child, that child will grow accustomed to getting his own way.

He will become, in the common vernacular, a spoiled brat.

The saying comes from Proverbs 13:24, “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.”

The Lord uses discipline to reveal our sin to us. This is also how parents reveal the truth of our need for a Savior to their children.

When a child does not feel the consequence of his sin, he will not understand that sin requires punishment.

The Lord provides a way to salvation and forgiveness through Jesus, but that means little to those who do not see their sin.

Furthermore, correction shows us that we are not above reproach and that we are accountable for our actions.

Our natural pride blinds us to our need for a Savior, and discipline reveals the truth of our wretchedness (Revelation 3:17).

Since salvation is the most important choice the child will ever make, it is imperative that parents are leading him to Christ, and discipline is critical to this process.

Proverbs 23:13 says, “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die.”

In the context of verses 13–14, die means “experience spiritual death in hell.”

Children who respect authority and feel sorrow for their sin are much more likely to ask Jesus to forgive them and be saved.

All children are born sinful (Romans 5:12–19).

Their natural self is destructive and unrighteous.

That does not mean they aren’t valuable and worthy of love (Psalm 127:3). It means that they are not born with any natural “goodness” in them.

That is why all children need discipline. Proverbs 22:15 says, “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.”

Discipline is critical for wisdom (Proverbs 29:15), and a child who obeys his parents will be wise (Proverbs 13:1).

And even adults who do not heed correction will feel the consequences of their foolishness (Proverbs 10:13).

Some people believe in discipline, but not in physical discipline, such as spanking.

However, the Bible is the final word on what is truth; and it is not mere opinion or theory.

The word rod indicates a thin stick or switch that can be used to give a small amount of physical pain with no lasting physical injury.

A child should never be bruised, injured, or cut by a physical correction.

The Bible warns that parents should never abuse the power and authority they have over their children while they are young because it provokes the children to righteous anger (Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21).

Physical discipline is always done in love, never as a vent to the parent’s frustration. It is also just one part of discipline and should be used when the child shows defiance to a clear limit, not in the heat of the moment.

God instructs parents to parent their children the way He parents His children.

Hebrews 12:5–11 tells us that God disciplines those whom He loves to perfect their righteousness.

God only disciplines His own, which proves that Christians are His beloved children.

Notice that David says that the Lord’s rod comforts him in his time of trouble (Psalm 23:4).

Finally, we know that no discipline feels good while it is happening, but afterwards the rewards are rich (Hebrews 12:11).

Godly character, fruit of the Spirit, and peace are rewards of God’s discipline.

The same is true for our human children. Children who have learned how to take responsibility for their actions are much happier people (Proverbs 3:11–18).

The importance of the rod of correction is that it steers the heart of a child toward Jesus and the forgiveness of sin He offers.

When parents trust God’s methods over their own, they will see the blessings for their children and themselves.

Recommended Resources:
Parenting Is Heart Work by Dr. Scott Turansky & Joanne Miller and Logos Bible Software.


The individual family unit and the importance of having one mother and one father under one roof, raising their children in a loving, nurturing and godly environment, is the most important building block of every society; for as the family unit goes within that society, so eventually will the nation!

We know in the Bible that this is the most important thing, from God’s perspective, that we pass the baton of our relationship with God, and our teaching and passing the knowledge of His ways onto the next generation.

This is even the reason why God tells us that He chose Abraham, to be the progenitor of the Hebrew nation (Gen 18:19), because he said Abraham would bring up his children in the fear and admonition of the Lord.

This scripture, in Luke, is speaking of the forerunner of Jesus Christ, John the Baptist, and it also impresses upon us, even today, the importance, from God’s perspective, of our maintaining the family unit within our society.

Luke 1:17

“He will also go before Him in the spirit and power of Elijah, ‘to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children,’ and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just, to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.”

Come join the Adventure!

Jesus Christ, God’s Son, Savior

Ps 150:6
Let everything that has breath praise the LORD!

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